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My Child Has Bad Manners
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We all want our
children to have
good manners.
Manners can and
should begin to be
taught to children
as soon as they
begin to speak.
Saying “please” and
“thank you” are
common manners.
Parents who model
good manners in
front of their
children often see
the children
beginning to use
appropriate manners.
If your child has
bad manners,
implement some of
the “Manners Matter”
listed below.
Remember, parents
need to demonstrate
good manners. If you
show up to the
dinner table not
wearing a shirt, the
child may
demonstrate this
behavior too. Before
you speak to your
child about good
manners, read
through the steps
listed below and
begin practicing
these steps in front
of your child. After
practicing these
steps for at least a
week, sit down with
your child and ask
them if they noticed
any changes that
you, the parent,
have been displaying
in regards to good
manners.
Manners Matter
· The first step in
helping your child
to develop good
manners is to
identify or make a
list of “Good
Manners.” List of
goods manners can be
written for the
home, friend’s
homes, school,
eating
establishments,
sporting activities
and other places
that you allow your
child to frequent.
Place the lists in a
place where you and
the child can easily
refer to them. Have
your child help
write or draw up the
lists.
· When your child is
displaying poor
manners don’t
lecture, teach! For
example: Show your
child by wiping your
own mouth with a
napkin that that’s
the appropriate
manners to use,
instead of the side
of an arm. Be
positive while you
are teaching.
· Go to your
neighborhood
library. Select
several children’s
books that teach
good manners through
a story. Use this
book as a story
telling time before
bed, dinner, playing
with friends and
more. There are
literally hundreds
of books written for
elementary
school-age children
using the “manner”
theme to help
parents teach good
manners through
story telling. Some
parents request
these books as gifts
to be given to
younger children for
their birthdays.
· Teach your child
appropriate signals
or body language
(other than your
voice) to remind
them to use good
manners. For
example, placing
your finger on your
ear may be used to
help remind the
child to listen to
others while they
talk. Rubbing your
lip may be used to
remind the child to
slow down when
eating food.
· Avoid bringing
your child to places
that challenges your
child’s ability to
use good manners for
a long period of
time. For example,
if you are house
hunting, furniture
shopping or
attending a
restaurant that is
primarily frequented
by adults, you may
want to consider
leaving your child
at home or with a
sitter, if
appropriate.
· Do not be afraid
to remove your child
from a setting if he
or she continues to
display bad manners.
Dismiss the child
from the dinner
table after you have
reminded the child
of the need to use
good manners. Put
this plan at the
bottom of the good
manner list as a
consequence that
will be used if the
child refuses to use
good manners.
· Do not encourage
your child to use
bad manners by
laughing at them
after they burp, at
silly at an
inappropriate time,
make a funny face
when someone is
serious. This only
teaches the child to
use poor manners.
· Always take the
time to review the
good manner lists
before going to the
grocery store,
someone house for
dinner, sporting
events and other
places that your
child may attend.
Author:
Scott Wardell
has a Masters Degree
in School Counseling
and a Specialist
Degree in School
Administration. He
has twenty-eight
years of counseling
and educational
experience. Scott is
a Past President of
the Minnesota
Association of
Middle Level
Educators. He has
presented at
numerous parenting
workshops,
educational
in-services and has
been a keynote
speaker on topics
involving Child
Development, School
Bullies and
Parenting. Scott
Wardell is the
creator, author and
editor of
ScottCounseling.com;
a Website devoted to
assisting parents
with informational
articles and online
counseling services. |
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