"The first requisite for success is the ability to apply your physical and mental energies to one problem incessantly without growing weary."
Thomas Edison
"I like the dreams of the future better than the history of the past."
-Thomas Jefferson
"The first requisite for success is the ability to apply your physical and mental energies to one problem incessantly without growing weary."
Thomas Edison
Everything ravaged, everything burned
by Wells Tower
The stories in this outstanding debut collection explore the troubled relationships of men down on their luck, in failed marriages, estranged from family, caught in imbroglios between sons and their fathers and stepfathers, and even, in Wild America, the subtle and ferocious competition between teenage girls. The strange and magnificent title story, in which Vikings set off again toward an oft-raided island, beautifully ties the collection together in its heartbreaking final paragraph. Tower's uncommon mastery of tone and wide-ranging sympathy creates a fine tension between wry humor and the primal rage that seethes just below the surface of each of his characters. => http://bit.ly/dvX0Xv
The Neighbour Winner: Best Novel, 2010 Thriller Award
~ Lisa Gardner
From a master of suspense comes a chilling new novel that explores the dangers lurking closer than you think. Because even in the perfect family, you never know what is going on behind closed doors... It was a case guaranteed to spark a media feeding frenzy--a young mother, blond and pretty, disappears without a trace from her South Boston home, leaving behind her four-year-old daughter as the only witness and her handsome, secretive husband as the prime suspect. => http://bit.ly/UqfyNk
Everyone who knows how to read has it in their power to magnify themselves, to multiply the ways in which they exist, to make their life full, significant, and interesting.
- Aldous Huxley
The most important things you need to get across to the audience are your message and your image. Any other aspect of your presentation (and there are many – visuals being just one) should be secondary to, and supportive of, getting the message and the image across – and certainly not distracting from those.
“Paradoxically, a group of humans becomes healing and converting only after its members have learned to stop trying to heal and convert. Community is a safe place precisely because no one is attempting to heal or convert you, to fix you, to change you. Instead, the members accept you as you are. You are free to be you. And being so free, you are free to discard defenses, masks, disguises; free to seek your own psychological and spiritual health; free to become your whole and holy self.”
-- Scott Peck
Congratulations, your daughter is getting married! You will soon be a father-in-law!
Being the Father of the Bride is a wonderful time for most men, but it can also be challenging when the reality of the whole event hits home. There can be confusion as to exactly what the role entails and how to assert one's own idea of how it should be. There is the challenge of the Father of the Bride speech. And no matter who gives it, it's a great start to know what the traditional expectations are, so that you can decide what you will a dopt and what you will choose to say. Will nerves be a problem? Might emotion get in the way of a great speech?
If you know a Father of the Bride facing these challenges, give him The Father of the Bride Pack ...
Learn what the traditional duties are for the Father of the Bride and the traditional structure of the Father of the Bride speech, then use the suggestions to create your own. Includes ways to overcome nerves and emotion on the day, where to find stories, and supports to use and tips on public speaking and storytelling in gerneral. => http://bit.ly/OCsutM
"Should" - This is one of the most damaging words in our language!
Every time we use the word "should", we are, in effect, saying "wrong." Usually when you think about the things you think you "should" have done or "should" do - you are only trying to please other people. Sometimes you use this word as a result of living up to your (or someone else's) unrealistic expectations. This usually occurs because you are afraid or feel you are not good enough.
Don't live up to someone else's standards - what do you want?!? Set your goals and expectations at a reasonable and attainable height. Listen to the words you speak and to your self talk. Be conscious of how many times and in what circumstances you say or think the word "should". When you notice a "should" replace it with "If I really wanted to I could/would... "
"Here's an example: Instead of saying, "I should exercise more."... replace it with, "If I really wanted to, I would exercise more." This slight change in wording and attitude turns guilt into freedom. And if you're really honest with yourself, and you really did want to exercise more, you would! You would make it a priority and make time in your schedule to do so! If you are happy with not exercising, then erase that "should" statement from your vocabulary and be happy and guilt-free with not exercising.
Here's another example: Instead of saying, "I should have gone to college!"... replace it with, "If I really wanted to, I could have gone to college." Again, this turns guilt into freedom. You may easily use excuses as to why this second statement is not true: I couldn't afford college, I didn't have good enough grades to go to college, etc. But these are just excuses. If you really wanted to go to college, you would have found a way! In this example, as with many "shoulds" in your life... it's not too late! If you still feel you "should" have and could have gone to college... GO! If something is important to you... do it! On the flip side, if you think you "should" have gone to college because your parents wanted you to go... release that thought! You can say, "If I really wanted to, I could have gone to college, but I didn't want to go." and leave it at that... because you didn't want to go to college, your parents wanted you to go!
These are just two examples, but you can apply it to anything you think you "should" do or have done. Try it out!
Let me know how this subtle change in wording affects the way you feel!
Author: By Deanna Heiliger Visit her Blog to become a "Better You!" http://www.MeToThePowerOfWe.com
