hello_gillespies
Published:24/09/2014
Format:Paperback, 528 pages
ISBN-13:9781921901812
ISBN-10:1921901810
Origin:Australia
Imprint:Michael Joseph
Publisher:Penguin Aus.

International number one bestseller Monica McInerney brings us a sparkling and hilarious new novel about the ups and downs of family life.

For more than thirty years, Angela Gillespie has sent friends and family around the world an end-of-year letter titled 'Hello from the Gillespies'. It's always been cheery and full of good news. This year, Angela surprises everyone including herself – she tells the truth . . .

The Gillespies are far from the perfect family that Angela has made them out to be. Her husband seems to be having a mid-life crisis. Her grown-up twins are having career meltdowns. Her third daughter, badly in debt, can't stop crying. And her ten-year-old son spends more time talking to his imaginary friend than to real ones.

With fantasy thoughts of a life before marriage and motherhood becoming more than just an innocent daydream, Angela's real life is slowly slipping out of focus. But, as the repercussions of her ruthlessly honest letter begin to pile up, a shocking event takes Angela from her family, and she realises she should have been more careful of what she wished for... Without Angela, the family would fall apart. But when Angela is taken from them in this most unexpected manner, the Gillespies pull together – and pull themselves together – in wonderfully surprising ways . . .

From the bestselling author of The House of Memories comes a funny and heartfelt novel about miscommunication and mayhem in a family like no other.

About the Author

Australian-born Dublin-based Monica McInerney is the author of nine novels, including the best-sellers The House of Memories, Lola's Secret, At Home with the Templetons and Those Faraday Girls, which are published across the world. Monica grew up in a family of seven children in the Clare Valley wine region of South Australia. Since then Monica has lived all around Australia, in Ireland, and in London. She and her Irish husband move back and forth between Australia and Ireland.

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Every so often, we need to stop and LIVE. That is, we need to Let go, Imagine, Venture, and Enjoy.

To "LET GO" does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To "let go" is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself.

To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about. To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive. To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies. To "let go" is not be protective, it's to permit another to face reality.

To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept. To "let go" is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them. To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it. To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. To "let go" is to fear less, and love more. [1]

To IMAGINE means to welcome a world of possibilities. To imagine means to conceptualize a life where limits are nonexistent. To imagine implies creating a reality that supports your noblest aspirations. To imagine is to give permission to self to succeed.

To imagine is to accept that your life matters. To imagine is to make a decision to choose the path of excellence. To imagine means to celebrate others and their narratives. To imagine is to love without boundaries. To imagine means to nurture relationships.

To imagine is to welcome diversity. To imagine is to treat others as you would like to be treated. To imagine is to think of creative ways to express kindness to others. To imagine means to invite civility into our conversations. To imagine means there is a time to remain silent, and there is a time to speak.

To imagine means to accept the gift of the present and plan for the future. To imagine is to be accountable to others. To imagine means to listen with intention. To imagine means to be emotionally available to others.

To imagine means to create a world where goodness is the common currency. To imagine means to be a spark that ignites the flames of freedom and democracy. To imagine is to embrace a life of sacrifice and commitment, and an allegiance to truth.

To VENTURE means to deal with reality with a smile. To venture is to experiment with winning possibilities. To venture is to invest your time, energy, and effort into making the world a better place. To venture means to seek the thrill of adventure and excitement. To venture is to take a risk and believe it will work out.

To venture is not to exploit our natural resources, but to preserve the environment. To venture is not to put your future in jeopardy by making bad decisions, but to evaluate each decision and its consequences, unintended or otherwise. To venture is not to pursue greatness in itself, but to pursue a calling that enriches other people's lives.

To venture is not to remain in debt, but to create wealth and give it away. To venture is not to live aimlessly, but to live with a written plan. To venture is to help others reach their full potential. To venture is to give back to your community. To venture is to provide for your family.

To venture is not to remain comfortable in status quo living, but to create and innovate. To venture is to work in the direction of your passion. To venture is to see failures as an opportunities to begin again more intelligently. To venture is to utilize all of your gifts, skills, and abilities. To venture is to push yourself beyond the limits of your creative endurance.

To venture is to try something you've never tried before. To venture is to focus on solutions. To venture is to create your own opportunities and take responsibility for your success. To venture is to become the prototypical brand. To venture is to align your vision, creative energy, desire to win, and value into a tangible, relevant, and innovative product that changes the way people live.

To ENJOY life is to be free. Let's not allow the powerful currents of busyness to prevent us from enjoying life a life of freedom. While many of us lack sufficient free time to escape to a world of fun and adventure, we should still strive to enjoy every waking moment.

To enjoy is to have fun. To enjoy is to appreciate our loved ones. To enjoy is to delight in friendships. To enjoy is to take delight in others' success. To enjoy is to applaud small victories. To enjoy is to celebrate the life we have been given.

The reason for getting up each day is to find purpose and meaning in life. Right? Well, it's that... and more.

Although there would be no enjoyment in life if there weren't always something after which to pursue, being awakened to your purpose is more than seeking after something.

As divine beings, we were not designed to pursue purpose, but to be purpose. To pursue means to strive, shadow, track, and seek after something. When you say, "I'm pursuing my purpose," you are actually saying, I am chasing after something I have not yet experienced, and desire to experience.

When that specific pursuit becomes the basis of your existence, your entire reality becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. This is to say that in every relationship, every career opportunity, every waking moment will be defined by a sense of restlessness, uncertainty, instability, insecurity, and confusion. When something is in a constant state of flux, without the values of stability, constancy and permanence, it arouses fear and unrest.

Imagine being in a relationship where your partner spent his/her waking moments in the relentless pursuit of something that will give his/her life meaning, rather than investing quality time and presence in the relationship. Consider what it would be like working at your job for years, and never being able to experience the gift of using your imagination, creativity, and skills, because you were too busy searching for your niche.

Yes, there is something significant, beautiful, and divine about embracing your destiny. Indeed, there is something transcendent about living purposefully. Amidst life's greatest challenges, difficulties, and pain, we strive to make sense of our reality. In festive times and times of jubilation we make every effort to embrace the moment. It is at the point where our challenges, difficulties, pain, and moments of delight find meaning that our lives become meaningful.

Thus, to be means to live on purpose. In other words, to know your purpose is to know yourself. The reason why many people find purpose so elusive is because they are chasing after something they believe has not yet being realized.

Your purpose is neither an object, nor a product. It is not something that can be manufactured. Your purpose is not some grand experiment carried out in a science lab. Sitting in a classroom at an institute of higher learning will not produce purpose. Many people imitate what successful people do, and then say that they've found their purpose. Actually, what they have become is a copycat, an imposter, and inauthentic.

As much as your parents love you, they cannot pass on purpose as an inheritance. If you were given the gift of infinity, because of the construct of purpose, it would still elude you.

The nature of purpose is to be lived and experienced. Your purpose is a living and breathing reality. Your purpose is as much a part of you as your heart and brain are part of your body. The immanence of your purpose will settle in your being as you accept its reality.

Think of a person who is a phenomenal motivational speaker and does this for a living, and considers motivational speaking to be his purpose in life. Does motivational speaking in itself have any inherent value? The answers is, no. Motivational speaking is an abstract concept that describes the activity the motivational speaker executes.

Motivational speaking is an extension of the motivator's mindset. Motivational speaking is given context by the motivator himself. While a motivational speech might stir up positive reactions and emotions, it is the presenter's ability to engage the audience that gives life to the presentation. If you separated the concept (I.e., motivational speaking) from the speaker, on one side you'd have an inanimate concept, and on the other side a living and breathing person.

Here's another example. A civil engineer has accepted that designing modern and seismic safe bridges is her life's purpose. Remember, her purpose is designing bridges. When you separate this person from her work, what are left are the bridges and the person. Which of the two is the purpose? It's clearly the woman with the idea.

Let's look at one final example. Imagine a singer performing on stage with a microphone in her hand. The function of the microphone is not to replace the singer's voice, because it simply can't in that it is an inanimate object. The function of the microphone is to amplify the singer's creative expression and captivating melody.

In the examples given, the microphone, the bridges, and motivational speaking were the tools that gave context to the person's purpose. Purpose is not only oneness with self, but also oneness with the cosmos. When the mind, body, and spirit converge into oneness with the universe, and become awakened to its divine privilege, life no longer consists of trying to find purpose. At the point of convergence, your existence becomes your purpose. YOU are your purpose.

Reference:
1. Retrieved from http://www.livinglifefully.com/lettinggo.htm

JOSIAH SAMUEL HARRY currently serves as an adjunct instructor. He teaches subjects ranging from world cultures to psychology.
Josiah's research interests are in spiritual philosophy, religion, and humanistic psychology. His published works include: Awakening Humanity's Collective Spirit, and Winning: Essentials for Achieving Relational Intimacy.

Josiah was born and raised in St. Croix, U.S. Virgin Islands. He was educated at Loyola University New Orleans. An original thinker and truth-seeker, Josiah invites each individual inward toward a deeper reality that unveils the fundamental purpose of life, which is to ultimately find truth in our own lives and live in relationship with others.

For women - You are one of a kind. BE that one of a kind. The kind is woman. The kind is human. Belong there in all the glorious imperfection of women and of humanity. But hang on, also, to the one of that kind that is you.

 

The Public Speaking Power in Creating

Public Speaking is all about you, isn't it?

You the speaker.

You creating a speech.

You delivering a speech.

You taking the audience on a journey.

You affecting the outcome.

You presenting stories, humour, information, ideas, products.

Me, the speaker.

Me, facing my fears.

Me, being confident.

Me, remembering the best words to use.

Me, creating energy in the room.

Me, finally achieving success as a speaker.

This blog is aimed at You (and if you are reading this, then it is about "me").

I am writing and speaking to you, hoping to give you ideas and resources that will be of value to you as a speaker.

Strange, then, that the one sure foundation of success is the ability, once the presentation begins (or even in the marketing beforehand) to make it about us - all of us in the room, all of us on this journey to being better, living better, being and living more easily.

Not just the audience - the "you" to whom we speak - else we become preachers, philosophers, at least one step, if not a whole staircase removed, from that audience, that "you".

We are all on this journey together, supporting each other.

How can we best ensure that, in our blogs, in our social media, in our speaking?

A simple hug - true story

She was eighty years young and still very active. In this small town in southwest Virginia, not much happened. It was just another empty day for a senior citizen who lived by herself. Although she has four children, five grandchildren and several great grandchildren, she was often alone.

In need of a few small things at the grocery and a desire to just get out of the house and be among people, she took a trip to the local Kroger's. Since there were only her own needs to satisfy, she walked up and down the aisles with a small cart. With just six items, she headed to the checkout.

He wandered the store. He'd come for a cup of hot soup and perhaps someone to talk to. The soup was good, it always was, but no one wanted to talk to an old man. Disappointed, he was about to leave when he saw her. She headed to the checkout with only a few items.

"Good morning, Ma'am." He smiled, "You can't leave yet?"

She turned toward the voice. A well dressed man smiled at her. "Excuse me?" she asked.

He pointed to the six items she'd selected. "Your basket is not full."

"There's no need to buy a lot." she replied. "There's no one to eat it."

He stared at her for a moment and said, "I'm so lonely!"

"I know what that's like."




In the middle of an aisle, in a large grocery store, at 11:30 AM, they stood and talked. "My wife and daughter died." he said. "They died too young." His eyes softened as he spoke briefly of them and then added, "and just recently, I lost my little Pomeranian. She was all I had left. Now I'm alone."

"I'm so sorry." She felt her own eyes moisten. He was as alone as she was.

"It's OK." he said bravely. "I hope I can find another dog like her. She was such a joy. At least someone needed me. She gave me purpose. Now I have none. Perhaps I'll get another, but at my age, I don't want to leave her alone when my time comes. Then again, I have this big house. A dog would be happy there. I've lived in it for fifty years. It has big rooms."

"Oh, the homes were built big back then. It was a time when people had large families." She smiled and wondered where the conversation was going.

"They sure did. This old place has four bedrooms. Three of them are empty. It's just me now." He sighed. "There's not much to do. My days are empty. I do get out as often as I can. In fact, every morning I go to McDonalds for breakfast."

"Good for you!" she said. "I try to get out as much as I can myself."

"Those kids at McDonalds are very nice to me. They always greet me with a smile and make such a fuss over me. They're almost like having grandkids. And you know what?"

"What?"

He leaned close and whispered. "They let me have my coffee for free. What do you think of that?"

"That's wonderful!" She knew the joy it must give him to feel welcomed.

They chatted for perhaps twenty minutes. "Well," she looked into his eyes, which now sparkled with pride over the family he had at McDonalds. "I must be getting home."

"I understand." The sparkle faded. "It was nice talking to you."

"It was nice talking to you too." She touched his hand. "I mean it."

He looked back at her and asked softly, "Can I give you a hug?"

A bit taken by his request, but fully understanding his need, she said, "Yes!"

There they stood, in a warm embrace, in the middle of a busy grocery, on a normal day, that was made special by a simple hug.

That evening, she reflected on her encounter with the man. She felt like he did, alone in the world. How many others her age felt the same loneliness? How many seniors just need a kind ear and perhaps a simple hug?

Michael T. Smith
This is a true story from one of Michael's readers. When she heard we were using the story she said, "Oh Mike! That is wonderful - not because it is our story but because the subject is being brought to the fore in such a manner!
Michael lives with his lovely wife, Ginny, in Caldwell, Idaho. He works as a project manager in Telecommunications and in his spare time writes inspiration stories. He has recently been published in two Chicken Soup for the Soul Books (All in the Family and Things I Learned from My Cat), in "Thin Threads - Life Changing Moments" and in Catholic Digest.
To read more of Michael's stories, go to: http://ourecho.com/biography-353-Michael-Timothy-Smith.shtml#stories

buried_giant

Publisher: Knopf Publishing Group
ISBN: 030727103X
Published: 3 March 2015

This is an extraordinary new novel from the author of "Never Let Me Go" and the Booker Prize-winning "The Remains of the Day.

"You've long set your heart against it, Axl, I know. But it's time now to think on it anew. There's a journey we must go on, and no more delay . . ."

"The Buried Giant" begins as a couple set off across a troubled land of mist and rain in the hope of finding a son they have not seen in years. Sometimes savage, often intensely moving, Kazuo Ishiguro's first novel in nearly a decade is about lost memories, love, revenge, and war.

"Kazuo Ishiguro is an original and remarkable genius". (The New York Times).
"A master craftsman". (Margaret Atwood, Slate).
"The best and most original writer of his generation". (Susan Hill, Mail on Sunday).

About the Author
KAZUO ISHIGURO's seven previous books have won him wide renown and numerous honors. His work has been translated into more than forty languages. Both "The Remains of the Day" and "Never Let Me Go "have more than 1,000,000 copies in print across platforms, and both were adapted into highly acclaimed films.

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"People who soar, are those who refuse to sit back and wish things would change." 
Charles R. Swindoll




Ike Ditzenberger had watched his big brothers play football. He grew up idolizing and imitating them. Ike wanted to play football too. And he even dared to talk about his dream of playing college football. Big deal, right? It just means that he is like thousands of other teenagers who dream of being an on-field hero.

As a matter of fact, Ike is quite different from your "average" teenage boy. The 17-year-old junior at Snohomish (Washington) High School has Down Syndrome. His 5-foot-6, 160-pound frame isn't that of an athlete, and he doesn't have the motor skills to compete in a game where he could get hurt very easily.

Ike is fortunate to have a supportive family. More than that, his classmates have given Ike the one gift that matters most to so many kids who have a handicap, look different, or stand out for the wrong reasons - the gift of inclusion. Still more specifically, Snohomish's football coach lets Ike come to practices and hang with the guys he admires. Coach Mark Perry has even created a play that ends every varsity practice. Called the Ike Special, the offense hands the ball to Ike. And he gets the thrill of running it toward a soft defensive line of his friends.

On Friday, Sept. 24, 2010, the traditionally competitive Snohomish was absorbing its fourth loss of the season. A 35-0 drubbing at the hands of undefeated Lake Stevens High was mercifully about to end. With 10 seconds left on the clock, Coach Perry heard the "We want Ike!" chant from the stands, put Ike Ditzenberger into the backfield, and called the Ike Special. Wearing No. 57, Ike took the ball and began to run left. Although he appears to have stepped out of bounds, officials let the play continue - as his teammates ran interference and Lake Stevens players made reluctant efforts to get to him.
By the time the clock had expired, Ike was in the end zone. He had run for 51 yards and scored Snohomish's only touchdown of the night. He got to dance in the end zone. The play that worked every time in practice had worked that night in a real game. And Ike got to head to the sidelines to rip off his helmet, pump it in the air, and - in his mom's words - "scream like a banshee."

Grownups in the stands were crying. Lake Stevens players had given up a shutout for something far more important. Snohomish coaches and players had taken the final step in making Ike "one of the guys" with the team.

With all the scandals in sports at all levels, it's nice to come across a story that affirms what games are supposed to teach - character, sportsmanship, team spirit, and self-confidence. Ike and his big brothers can talk football like never before for the rest of their lives now. The guys on the field that wonderful night can talk forever about the biggest play in their high school careers.


Rubel Shelly

Rubel Shelly is a Preacher and Professor of Religion and Philosophy located in Rochester Hills, Michigan. In addition to church and academic responsibilities, he has worked actively with such community projects as Habitat for Humanity, American Red Cross, From Nashville With Love, Metro (Nashville) Public Schools, Faith Family Medical Clinic, and Operation Andrew Ministries. To learn more about Rubel please go to: www.RubelShelly.com