When or How Do You Know It’s You Who Needs to Change?

pivotal change

 

Are you able to be aware of when you need to change or adjust something about yourself? 

Or is it easier or more comfortable to think others and life are the ones that need to change?

One of the ways I know I need to change is when I find myself thinking thoughts in a certain way for an extended time, or I think pretty much the same types of thoughts over and over, but none of this thought activity moves me forward or causes me to feel the way I desire to. This is especially true when it involves another person's behaviors that I feel a challenge, contrast, or conflict with, and wish they'd change so I could feel better. 



What about you? 

What do you do that leads you to see the most obvious and first change to make is in you?

One of the first things we could, should, or would change is our thoughts; and fortunately for us, since we're the only ones who have them, we can address them. That random thoughts will happen spontaneously is a given. Trying to control or stop this fact is a waste of time. But you can transmute thoughts, that is redirect them, once they happen, which takes practice. However, it's important that you distinguish between thought contemplation based in a genuine desire to solve, resolve, or improve and negatively dwelling on or harping on a matter, the latter being a thought activity that will never get you to where you want to be: peaceful, no matter what.

You're going to interact with, or live with, people whose behaviors could be improved; and others will feel the same about you. When someone's behavior triggers you out of your serenity and joy, your quickest way back to those feelings is to change something in or about you, starting with your attitude, mindset, or perspective, and followed by constructive or productive words and/or actions, or even appropriate silence and inaction at times.

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You could say a good goal is to stay in peace and in trust in the Universe (though, this is more than a mere goal, it's a desirable way to be); but the words "stay in" puts you on the spot: Who can stay in that mindset all the time? However, as I said a moment ago about thoughts, you can transmute and redirect negative energies that surface in you, which will take practice. And this is a worthy practice because your peace and trust in the Universe are the fastest pathways for the Universe to rebalance what you perceive as having gone off-center in you and your life, in accordance with how Law of Attraction is designed to work, and does.

It's not always necessarily a simple matter to return to peace and trust once triggered by someone or an event, but it is doable. What is also doable is to practice peace and trust in the Universe before you're triggered. It's like that old saying, "A stitch in time saves nine." If you practice on smaller annoyances, you begin to fine-tune yourself for if or when larger ones come along. None of this means you deny, suppress, or never share what you feel; it's about what you do with and about your emotions that surface as a result of your feelings, and your beliefs.





When you think about seeking or having peace, you may think of a quiet place like an isolated beach or an ashram, or a walk in nature, or eliminating every annoying person or matter from your life. However, there are other ways to seek and create peace that we may not as readily think about: assessing and modifying some of our behaviors. Here are some general behaviors some may want to look at:

  • Any of your behaviors that consistently trigger or annoy someone or a number of others in a not-good way.
  • What you say and/or do in a consistent manner that doesn't cause you to feel good or better about yourself, others, and any aspect of your life or life in general.
  • You're always, nearly always, or far too often for your own good, in a negative mood or mindset.
  • You consider yourself superior to all or certain others, which always results in your mistreatment of them, and their subsequent mistreatment of you.
  • You expect and wait for anyone or anything to change, to please your ego-based needs and desires, before you feel good or happy. Note: I'm addressing ego-based needs here, not realistic or practical needs, or behavior anomalies that require real internal or external adjustment for the well-being of those involved.
  • You consistently practice negative levels of gossip or complaining (which is not the same as productive venting to an appropriate listener).
  • You're free with criticism and opinions, whether or not you're asked for these, and deliver them in ways that are non-supportive and don't encourage the understanding, illumination, or improvement you desire.
  • You get angry fast and often, and "go in with gloves on" rather than pick your battles, and pick a more appropriate time to address them.
  • You practice payback or revenge.
  • You practice unusual, non-productive, or harmful levels of self-condemnation.
  • You base your self-worth on anyone or anything external to you, and forget or ignore that you are an expression of the Universe.
  • You believe you have to do everything about or in your life, and don't include the Universe as your partner.

What you see in the above list are behaviors or practices that, if we changed or adjusted enough to not do them or not do them the same way or as often as we do, we would experience more peace. There are two ways to seek peace: where you receive (like sitting on a quiet beach or having a serene hour alone or getting a massage) and where you give yourself and others a more pleasant, peaceful experience by modifying your own behaviors that don't serve you (or them) in a good way. These are changes you can assess the need for then follow through on with practice.



We all deal with the need or necessity of change differently, especially when it's a change in us that's needed. 

Here are some very generalized descriptions of how five behavior types may approach a need for change.

  1. Aggressive types will use coercion, force, verbal abuse, and/or physical abuse against others. But, they won't necessarily recognize their aggressions as such; or if they do recognize them, they may decide they are justified. They may think this is the way to get things done the way they want them to be done: the end justifies the means. They believe little to nothing needs to change about them.
  2. Passive-Aggressive types will resist doing what they need to do or what others need or ask them to do, especially if the request is demanding or authoritative. They may toss out "zinger" statements to make someone feel guilty because they are uncomfortable speaking their truth in a better way. They believe guilt will show (or force) others the errors of their ways; and they'll mope and sulk until the change they desire is obvious and consistent. They control others, or attempt to, by making them feel at fault for how unhappy they feel.
  3. Passive types will fold their energy up like a telescope, and offer no resistance. They suppress the bad feelings they have, but they have them in spades. Passivity, though, lasts for only so long before the person opts for another behavior to release the pressure that's built up. This is because they are not actually easy-going (a very different mindset), but one of the other types above in disguise.
  4. Assertive types look for ways to collaborate or compromise. They speak out and they listen to what others have to say. They're ready to take needed action, and take it. As long as they don't cross over into aggressive behaviors, they stay in the "assertive" zone. They do what they can to accomplish what they set out to do, and often feel confident about decision-making. They tend to encourage, guide, or mentor others.
  5. Spiritual types observe what's going on. They ask themselves and/or the Universe for right questions then seek and ask right questions of others. They ask and trust the Universe to show others, as well as themselves, adjustments that need to be or could be made, rather than charging into battle about matters. Their mantra for more complicated circumstances (and life) is, "I may not know how or when this will be taken care of, but I know the Universe is working on it." They pay attention to signals from the Universe about how and when they should take certain actions. They mostly stay in, or return to, peace and trust more easily, based on experience and lots of practice. They tend to be more easy-going than other types because of this.

The first three types above are examples of unskillful behaviors, which can be transmuted into skillful ones with guidance and practice. And all five types have "shades," as well as "flavors" of skilled and unskilled aspects. Also, under certain circumstances, any of us might display behaviors from the five types: we may desire to be skillful at all times, but find this isn't always the case. But with practice, we can always improve our ratio of skillful-to-unskillful behaviors.





When we don't observe our own behaviors through the appropriate lens, we miss opportunities to choose ways to have and be the feelings we desire most. Look back at the list of behaviors to consider, and perhaps add your own. Look back at the five behavior types and see which one is your current predominant style and which one you'd prefer to be your predominant style. Be honest, and kind, with yourself as you do this. Always aim at making choices that keep you in integrity and encourage you to do your best and feel your best in any given moment, even if you slip or trip up first. It's a good practice, one you'll appreciate.

Practice makes progress.


Copyright 2012 © Joyce Shafer
Joyce Shafer is a Life Empowerment Coach dedicated to helping people feel, be, and live their true inner power. She’s author of “I Don’t Want to be Your Guru” and other books/ebooks, and publishes a free weekly online newsletter that offers empowering articles and free downloads. See all that’s offered by Joyce and on her site at State of Appreciation.

 

 

 

Daring to Take Risks

The first time anything new and creative is proposed, it gets labeled. And the label put on these novel things is likely to be "risky." Can't you just hear it?

"Let me get this straight, Orville. You and Wilbur are building a machine that will do what? Heavier-than-air flying machines are the riskiest hoax anybody ever palmed off on two gullible boys like you Wrights. Get a real job!"

Or maybe it was somebody's harebrained idea of talking pictures, black and white children attending the same school, or people walking on the moon. More than one person was berated simply for giving voice to such "silly" ideas.

It turns out that some of the people who dared to propose such outlandish possibilities are now regarded as geniuses - revolutionaries - heroes. And it was only because they dared to question others and to question themselves. They challenged the limitations others were willing to take for granted.

There is something in your profession or business, your family or church that could be done better. A situation could be more productive. A relationship could be healthier. An objective could be clarified. Some lofty ideal to which all in the group give lip service could actually be implemented. But I warn you up front: Like restoring a car or house, it will take twice as long as you thought, cost far more than you anticipated, and strain every important relationship in your life!

Only you can decide if it will be worth it to undertake something so ambitious and costly. There will be false starts. There will be embarrassing mistakes along the way. But the potential outcome could be as important to your personal situation as the achievements of the Wright brothers, Rosa Parks, and Neil Armstrong were to their time and place.

The problem with our world is not that there are no more frontiers to challenge and conquer. It's that there are too few explorers. There are too few people willing to ask the obvious questions and challenge the traditional wisdom. In a word, too few of us want to take the risks that could make us look stupid.

If you are fortunate enough to have a dream in your heart, be willing to make mistakes in pursuit of it. Be a risk-taker. You just might change the world.

Rubel Shelly
Rubel Shelly is a Preacher and Professor of Religion and Philosophy located in Rochester Hills, Michigan. In addition to church and academic responsibilities, he has worked actively with such community projects as Habitat for Humanity, American Red Cross, From Nashville With Love, Metro (Nashville) Public Schools, Faith Family Medical Clinic, and Operation Andrew Ministries. To learn more about Rubel please go to: www.RubelShelly.com

Love is a Choice

 

 
 
In these amazing times of great change, we are faced with an overwhelming amount of choices on all levels of significance. In order to make clear decisions in line with our personal goals and highest good, it is important to maintain our inner balance and harmonious center point. That source of genuine strength, wisdom and ultimate potential is held within us every moment as unconditional love.

Bringing our conscious awareness into each “now” moment affords us the opportunity to be fully present and to realize we are whole, complete and capable of creating a more joyful life. Our personal perspective is the key and when we choose a loving perspective we create a love-filled reality.

However, as we move forward in life, one of the greatest obstacles we often face is fear. It influences our choices and decisions and usually keeps us from our natural success. In fact, it seems these days that fear has a hold on our collective reality. Don't believe it. Fear itself is not real.

Fear is nothing more than a notion, idea, concept, thought and feeling. It is ultimately an acceptance of self doubt. We give birth and life to these thoughts by empowering them with our attention. The more we focus upon suggestions and ideas of fear, the more prominent they become in our awareness.

Historically, fear has been a powerful motivator and stimulated great change. Yet it has often come at very great cost. When fearful thoughts are misunderstood and their positive influence and opportunity to rise above a situation through love is ignored, death and destruction are the result.

There is another way to experience life and that is with love. When we begin to understand that ALL life is interconnected we start to realize the true power we wield each moment. Only love expands our reality through joyful and positive solutions. Fear cannot.

Once thought to be weak and inconsequential, we now realize that love is a dynamic and transforming energy that brings balance and harmony to all it touches. It takes great courage and personal strength to choose love and allow it to expand our consciousness. We already know the consequences of allowing fear, doubt and negativity to rule our reality. What would our lives and the world be like if we gave love a chance?

The exact moment we acknowledge love is the same moment we experience love. We have the power within our thoughts and feelings to decide what type of life we desire to live. We can succumb to the tired illusion of doubt and fear, or rise above and claim a life of joy and prosperity through love. The choice to love is the greatest power we have and it remains ours each moment.

Harold W. Becker is President and Founder of The Love Foundation, Inc. and is the author of UnconditionalLove -- An Unlimited Way of Being.

Capital Q



What are you most afraid of? Getting sick, going broke, losing a loved one, dying?

It occurred to me today that what I'm most afraid of is the Question. The one with a capital Q that haunts my mind like a foreign voice murmuring words that I know are important, but I can't understand.

It's the Question that interrupts my sleep and draws my attention away from things I know I must do. It churns in my stomach. I hide best I can, but it pursues me relentlessly.

Beyond the age of two, when questions are our favorite form of discourse, we tend to dislike questions. They point out what we don't know yet – and who enjoys that!

Questions whisper that we aren't totally in control. They're clothed in uncertainty that disturbs our sense of safety.

As personally distressing as these Questions may be, they aren't really personal at all. They are as universal as breath.

What am I doing with my life?

Where am I going?

What really matters?

At one time or another all of us face such Questions. And the quality of our days is highly dependent upon what we do at that very moment. Run, wrestle, or regard?

It's likely you've found that running or wrestling doesn't get you far. You can't out-run or out-wit universal Mind. Fight or flight cannot vanquish this fear. Regarding the Question openly requires the development of a different muscle – that of wonder.
It's a muscle we've flexed when we crested the western ridge of a mountain and were awe-struck by a glorious sunset. Or when we first looked into the eyes of a newborn baby and felt at once humbled and exalted. For that one instant your persona merged into the miracle of life and Questions ceased.

That's the approach to life's sacred Questions that reveals what we long to know. Simply stand before the Question that's chosen you and let the Question breathe. 

Quietly hold the unknown. 

It is only unknown because you've kept turning away. 

It's not fearful. It's the running that has kept you in fear. 

Cultivate a relationship with the unknown. Relax and listen. 

Allow yourself to hear. It's your destiny speaking to you.

Still rather have the answer? Are you sure? If you aren't clear about the question how do you ever hope to understand the answer? I think I've finally learned that answers aren't all they're cracked up to be without a clear view of what the answer answers. So, I'm learning to appreciate the pondering, the reflecting, the patience to listen. The Question is the envelope in which the answer lies.

Do now what you are most prepared to do now. Court the Question. Let it surround you with its mystery. Wait and know that in that very waiting you are letting the Question change you into the person who can finally hear the answer.

Karen is author of The Sequoia Seed: Remembering the Truth of Who You Are, a great read for anyone who is seeking understanding or guidance, inspiration or clarity in his or her life. Waking Up, the free bi-monthly ezine,

Personal Reflections – It’s About The People

 


These days I find that I don’t bother to read the colorful ads in the Sunday newspaper. I also don’t have the desire to wander through the mall or the fancy furniture stores to see what lovely things they have that I may want.

When I was a young bride, I wanted all the fun, glitzy stuff, like fancy china, sterling silverware, a big house and a cool car.  I forget why I wanted them.  I think it may have had something to do with insecurity and the wish to “keep up with” our friends or society’s expectations.

Over the years I’ve lost that desire, and now I have no need to acquire things just for the sake of having them.  Now my focus is to have a fun, safe, comfortable place for people to gather and enjoy each other.  The focus is on the relationships, not the stuff.

The bottom line is that it’s always about the people. Family, friends, colleagues and the world community are what life is about.  I can have all the wealth in the world, but if I don’t share love, respect and time with others, I have nothing.

So this month I’m reflecting on what’s reallyimportant to me.  It’s always the people, and my goal every day is to show love, caring and compassion, and put more thought, time and energy into reinforcing those connections.

How about you? 

Sandra Abell

Sandy is the author of Self-Esteem: An Inside Job. She is an educator, speaker and a Licensed Professional Counselor. She specializes in working with executives, business owners, professionals, entrepreneurs and people in transition. Sandy publishes a free monthly newsletter entitled Focusing On Your Success. Please visit Sandy on her website at www.insidejobscoach.com 
 

Productivity and Attitude



I'm the only one who does anything around here! 

 Several years ago I was on a late-night television show in New York City. For some strange reason, they wanted me in the studio that afternoon at 4:30. I walked in and was stunned by the small size of the reception area. It contained a couch for three, a chair for one and a sink, refrigerator and coffee maker.

As I sat down a woman walked in, shook her head and said, "Nobody makes any coffee except me!" She got busy and started a fresh pot of coffee. A few minutes later a guy walked in and, following the same procedure said, "I can't believe it! This place would be a pig-pen if it weren't for me! I'm the only person who ever does any clean-up," and he cleaned up the small area. Still later another woman walked in and complained, "Nobody ever puts anything up but me," and she proceeded to put things away.

Interestingly enough, all three of those people sincerely felt they were the only ones who ever did anything. Each one did their own private halo-adjustment as they went through the process of "making up, putting up and cleaning up."

Question: Is that the way it is in your company, where "nobody does anything," but everybody thinks they're the only one who actually works?

Thought: If that is true and you are the only one who does anything, think of the incredible advantage that gives you. Not only do you have job security, but the opportunity door is wide open for your move to the top.

However, if you have a chip on your shoulder, if you honestly feel that you do everything and you share that feeling with others, your bad attitude negates your good work.

So, stay busy, keep working, smile about it and your good attitude about "doing everything" will catch up with you. Think about it and I'll SEE YOU AT THE TOP!

 

Zig Ziglar is a motivator and teacher. He is the author of 27 books and loved by millions of people world wide for his practical wisdom and his gift of hope.

Let go, Imagine, Venture and Enjoy

Every so often, we need to stop and LIVE. That is, we need to Let go, Imagine, Venture, and Enjoy.

To "LET GO" does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To "let go" is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself.

To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about. To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive. To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies. To "let go" is not be protective, it's to permit another to face reality.

To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept. To "let go" is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them. To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it. To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. To "let go" is to fear less, and love more. [1]

To IMAGINE means to welcome a world of possibilities. To imagine means to conceptualize a life where limits are nonexistent. To imagine implies creating a reality that supports your noblest aspirations. To imagine is to give permission to self to succeed.

To imagine is to accept that your life matters. To imagine is to make a decision to choose the path of excellence. To imagine means to celebrate others and their narratives. To imagine is to love without boundaries. To imagine means to nurture relationships.

To imagine is to welcome diversity. To imagine is to treat others as you would like to be treated. To imagine is to think of creative ways to express kindness to others. To imagine means to invite civility into our conversations. To imagine means there is a time to remain silent, and there is a time to speak.

To imagine means to accept the gift of the present and plan for the future. To imagine is to be accountable to others. To imagine means to listen with intention. To imagine means to be emotionally available to others.

To imagine means to create a world where goodness is the common currency. To imagine means to be a spark that ignites the flames of freedom and democracy. To imagine is to embrace a life of sacrifice and commitment, and an allegiance to truth.

To VENTURE means to deal with reality with a smile. To venture is to experiment with winning possibilities. To venture is to invest your time, energy, and effort into making the world a better place. To venture means to seek the thrill of adventure and excitement. To venture is to take a risk and believe it will work out.

To venture is not to exploit our natural resources, but to preserve the environment. To venture is not to put your future in jeopardy by making bad decisions, but to evaluate each decision and its consequences, unintended or otherwise. To venture is not to pursue greatness in itself, but to pursue a calling that enriches other people's lives.

To venture is not to remain in debt, but to create wealth and give it away. To venture is not to live aimlessly, but to live with a written plan. To venture is to help others reach their full potential. To venture is to give back to your community. To venture is to provide for your family.

To venture is not to remain comfortable in status quo living, but to create and innovate. To venture is to work in the direction of your passion. To venture is to see failures as an opportunities to begin again more intelligently. To venture is to utilize all of your gifts, skills, and abilities. To venture is to push yourself beyond the limits of your creative endurance.

To venture is to try something you've never tried before. To venture is to focus on solutions. To venture is to create your own opportunities and take responsibility for your success. To venture is to become the prototypical brand. To venture is to align your vision, creative energy, desire to win, and value into a tangible, relevant, and innovative product that changes the way people live.

To ENJOY life is to be free. Let's not allow the powerful currents of busyness to prevent us from enjoying life a life of freedom. While many of us lack sufficient free time to escape to a world of fun and adventure, we should still strive to enjoy every waking moment.

To enjoy is to have fun. To enjoy is to appreciate our loved ones. To enjoy is to delight in friendships. To enjoy is to take delight in others' success. To enjoy is to applaud small victories. To enjoy is to celebrate the life we have been given.

The reason for getting up each day is to find purpose and meaning in life. Right? Well, it's that... and more.

Although there would be no enjoyment in life if there weren't always something after which to pursue, being awakened to your purpose is more than seeking after something.

As divine beings, we were not designed to pursue purpose, but to be purpose. To pursue means to strive, shadow, track, and seek after something. When you say, "I'm pursuing my purpose," you are actually saying, I am chasing after something I have not yet experienced, and desire to experience.

When that specific pursuit becomes the basis of your existence, your entire reality becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. This is to say that in every relationship, every career opportunity, every waking moment will be defined by a sense of restlessness, uncertainty, instability, insecurity, and confusion. When something is in a constant state of flux, without the values of stability, constancy and permanence, it arouses fear and unrest.

Imagine being in a relationship where your partner spent his/her waking moments in the relentless pursuit of something that will give his/her life meaning, rather than investing quality time and presence in the relationship. Consider what it would be like working at your job for years, and never being able to experience the gift of using your imagination, creativity, and skills, because you were too busy searching for your niche.

Yes, there is something significant, beautiful, and divine about embracing your destiny. Indeed, there is something transcendent about living purposefully. Amidst life's greatest challenges, difficulties, and pain, we strive to make sense of our reality. In festive times and times of jubilation we make every effort to embrace the moment. It is at the point where our challenges, difficulties, pain, and moments of delight find meaning that our lives become meaningful.

Thus, to be means to live on purpose. In other words, to know your purpose is to know yourself. The reason why many people find purpose so elusive is because they are chasing after something they believe has not yet being realized.

Your purpose is neither an object, nor a product. It is not something that can be manufactured. Your purpose is not some grand experiment carried out in a science lab. Sitting in a classroom at an institute of higher learning will not produce purpose. Many people imitate what successful people do, and then say that they've found their purpose. Actually, what they have become is a copycat, an imposter, and inauthentic.

As much as your parents love you, they cannot pass on purpose as an inheritance. If you were given the gift of infinity, because of the construct of purpose, it would still elude you.

The nature of purpose is to be lived and experienced. Your purpose is a living and breathing reality. Your purpose is as much a part of you as your heart and brain are part of your body. The immanence of your purpose will settle in your being as you accept its reality.

Think of a person who is a phenomenal motivational speaker and does this for a living, and considers motivational speaking to be his purpose in life. Does motivational speaking in itself have any inherent value? The answers is, no. Motivational speaking is an abstract concept that describes the activity the motivational speaker executes.

Motivational speaking is an extension of the motivator's mindset. Motivational speaking is given context by the motivator himself. While a motivational speech might stir up positive reactions and emotions, it is the presenter's ability to engage the audience that gives life to the presentation. If you separated the concept (I.e., motivational speaking) from the speaker, on one side you'd have an inanimate concept, and on the other side a living and breathing person.

Here's another example. A civil engineer has accepted that designing modern and seismic safe bridges is her life's purpose. Remember, her purpose is designing bridges. When you separate this person from her work, what are left are the bridges and the person. Which of the two is the purpose? It's clearly the woman with the idea.

Let's look at one final example. Imagine a singer performing on stage with a microphone in her hand. The function of the microphone is not to replace the singer's voice, because it simply can't in that it is an inanimate object. The function of the microphone is to amplify the singer's creative expression and captivating melody.

In the examples given, the microphone, the bridges, and motivational speaking were the tools that gave context to the person's purpose. Purpose is not only oneness with self, but also oneness with the cosmos. When the mind, body, and spirit converge into oneness with the universe, and become awakened to its divine privilege, life no longer consists of trying to find purpose. At the point of convergence, your existence becomes your purpose. YOU are your purpose.

Reference:
1. Retrieved from http://www.livinglifefully.com/lettinggo.htm

JOSIAH SAMUEL HARRY currently serves as an adjunct instructor. He teaches subjects ranging from world cultures to psychology.
Josiah's research interests are in spiritual philosophy, religion, and humanistic psychology. His published works include: Awakening Humanity's Collective Spirit, and Winning: Essentials for Achieving Relational Intimacy.

Josiah was born and raised in St. Croix, U.S. Virgin Islands. He was educated at Loyola University New Orleans. An original thinker and truth-seeker, Josiah invites each individual inward toward a deeper reality that unveils the fundamental purpose of life, which is to ultimately find truth in our own lives and live in relationship with others.

Willingness

 

Without our willingness to channel the best, we cannot even begin. Whether it is creating a new life, or a new world, or a piece of art or music or writing, it all begins with being open.

 

First in imagination, then in will, then in reality, is an old saying but true.

Our gifts to this world, and this realm’s gifts to us can come in many ways, often as we least expect them but they come especially when we are open to give, open to receive.

If step one is being willing, then step two is making the time to clear some space in our lives to receive. Being in stillness, enjoying the silence so that we can tune to the inner realms where the intuitive creative flow runs like a river, a subtle current, through us all.

Step two is also about being aware of rhythms.

Step three is then deciding which channel you wish to tune to, to download from, rather than just opening without discernment to any channel, for there are many layers within the fields, many realms seeking expression — from the astral to the realms of ascended light.

Step four is the process of allowing, allowing it all to flow though us – always listening to the rhythm of our heart, to its natural song of expression, so that this heart energy is embedded in all that we do.

 

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Three Ways To Live – The Short View, The Long View And A Better Way


Is there a better way?

Goals are important.
Action is necessary.
Planning is helpful.
Confidence is vital.
Hope is critical.
Self-improvement is compulsory.
Belief is essential.
But in the end there are only three ways to live - the short view, the long view or a combination of both. Let me explain.
The short view - Life happens now. Memories were created yesterday. The future happens tomorrow. When we take the short view and live life according to this approach we often fail to take into consideration the future consequences of decisions made and actions taken. Yes, we live in the present moment and this is a good thing, but failing to understand the relationship between now and tomorrow and yesterday can have its negatives like; regret, disappointment, frustration and even stress.
Today is all we know we have and failing to live today to the fullest means we essentially waste life. When we spend our now moments filled with worry, fear, uncertainty and anxiety we set ourselves up for more of the same. When we live today with hope, faith, courage and confidence we create potential better tomorrow's and yesterdays but either way we can avoid some of the negative impact on the future and the past.
If you had a simple choice to live in the now, wonder about the future or go back to yesterday and the good old days which would you choose? The past can't be changed and the future is totally unknown no matter how we spend our now moments but the chances of a better tomorrow increase when you bring control over your emotions and actions today.
The long view - The long view is all about planning, hoping, preparing and even wishing but in the end how we spent our past will have an impact on the longer view. Focusing only on tomorrow, next week or even next year steals from your present and again, we have literally no control over what will or may happen tomorrow. Yes, plans are good, goals are helpful and preparation is important but let me ask you - have you met all of your goals, have all your plans worked out as you anticipated - has your past preparation turned out to be unnecessary or even a waste of time given how things happened?
It is vital to live with hope and positive desires for the future. Faith in the good of the unknown is important but in the end, "We make our plans, but God determines our steps".
So keep on planning, keep working towards your goals, but never forget that we can only control what we can control and in the end that is very little when it comes to living.
A combination - Living with both the long and short view as your life approach. Life happens - every day - things we want and hope for and often things we don't want or didn't see coming. When you live with both the short and long term view you embrace the best of today, take what crosses your path with poise and acceptance knowing that that is all you can do and just keep keeping on towards your goals, plans and dreams.
I can't tell you how many times life has thrown me an unexpected curve in every area of life - finances, health, relationships and my career, but as the days and years pass I have learned that all I can do is do the best I can with today's circumstances and just keep plodding and yes sometimes even flying into tomorrow.
The answer - Let me repeat - you can't relive the past changing what is - is now history. You have minor control over what will happen in the future so what's left?
Plan, set goals, have dreams, prepare, work hard and hope but at the end of the day - well I'll share one of my motto's with you - If it happens and it's something I want - I will be excited and filled with gratitude and say thank you. If it doesn't I will not be disappointed and yes, say thank you again.
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Author:  Tim Connor  Global speaker and trainer (23 countries and 4000 presentations) on a variety of sales, leadership, motivation, management and business and personal relationships and best selling author of over 80 books.   http://www.timconnor.com 

 

 

Your Wish Is My Command!

I am going to take a little idea from The Secret - and expand upon it - and also introduce a principle to those of you who haven't yet seen The Secret. I recommend that you do see it as soon as possible!

OK - here's the principle: That each and every thought you have is actually heard by your very own genie!

Stick with me here - because I do understand just how challenging this suggestion might be to some of you. I'm asking you to look at this light-heartedly - as it doesn't have to shake your foundations completely - it can be absorbed in a light-hearted way - and used in the same manner.

We've all been getting told for years to "be careful what you ask for - you just might get it"!

Some of us have been told this in a light hearted way; some in the form of a joke; some in the form of reference to prayer in a religious sense; and some in a very serious way. Whichever way we tend to view this - it is in itself part of the relationship we have with our genie... our thought processes.

The Law of Attraction which is the main focus of The Secret, is about owning what we create within our lives - and taking responsibility for our thoughts and understanding just how powerful they can be.

OK - the genie principle.

I truly believe that if each of us can embrace the simple idea that we have a friendly genie paying attention to each and every thought we have - then we will learn to grasp in a light-hearted way that we do actually create our own results in life.

If we can imagine that each thought (and our verbalizing of those thoughts) is being heard, and responded to like this; "OK - your wish is my command"! "I'll get right onto that for you"!

Whether the thoughts and words we use are positive - or negative - the results will be in alignment with those thoughts and words. Too many sages down through the ages and into the present have been agreeing on this for too long for it not to be true!

Remember - the votes have been unanimous for centuries!

What we think - we will manifest!
What we think - we will become!
What we think - we will continue to think - unless we take action to change our habitual thinking.

Thinking that has been put there by life; by our experiences in life; by other people who have had the same thought patterns put there by life; by their experiences in life; and by other people in their lives... and so it goes. Generations of thoughts which have created reality for millions of people - have been passed down to us.

Right now we all have a choice: To continue living under other people's opinions passed down to us about life; or to embrace change here and now and begin to create our own positive thoughts based upon a few pinnacle principles...

Unconditional Love; Abundance; Forgiveness; Spiritual Awareness; Inner Peace (which will spread to your community, then to your state, then to your country, and eventually globally); Deserving; Kindness; and Mind/Body/Spirit balance.

Of course there are other pinnacle principles on which to base new thoughts and ideas - but those just given above are some of the main ones necessary for each of us to manifest abundance, good health, a balanced lifestyle, peace and happiness in our lives.

I am very aware that many of you reading this will already be relating to your own genie as being God, and of course I encourage and respect that thought process, and the feelings surrounding those beliefs. My reasoning in writing this is to encourage a light-hearted aspect to our relationship with our thought processor.

A genie is something that most of us can actually visualize - so being capable of visualizing someone taking notes - then acting on those notes - is one slightly different way to view the importance of how our thoughts turn into reality!

May you and your genie have a sensational week together.

Remember: "What others do or say is their stuff; how we react, or not, is our stuff"!

© Phil Evans
Phil Evans is a Motivator, Business Coach and Inspirational Writer based in Australia. You can visit his website at: www.peoplestuff.com.au or feel free to email Phil with your comments on his story at: phil@peoplestuff.com.au