Why We Start and Stop and Start Again
I have started running again. I love to run! I love the feeling of my body in sync and moving through space. Why did I ever stop? Especially since it is harder to get back into shape than it is to stay in shape. It got me thinking about how often I have experienced myself and other people giving up on themselves, their spiritual practice, a healthy lifestyle, financial abundance, their goals, and even their vision for their life. Why do we sabotage and give up on ourselves? Is it fear of failure? Fear of success? A belief that we are not worthy, too old or that it is too hard to continue on? Here are a few reasons as to why:
1) Very few of us are conditioned to be fully present to each and every moment and take action on what is ours to do. Most of us have whole lot of mind chatter telling us to worry about what how we failed in the past or focus on all the obstacles that are bound to show up in the future.
2) Most of us are also unaware of sabotaging intentions underneath our 'intention'.
3) Our commitment to what serves our highest and best good is forgotten because it is easier to blame outside circumstances instead of taking 100% responsibility for the effects in our life.
4) We put everyone and everything first vs. putting our self first.
5) Our tolerance for pleasure has a ceiling.
Here are some suggestions of what to do:
1) Practice bringing yourself into the present moment by taking a deep breath. Yes breathe in the energy of the Divine into your heart and feel what this feels like. Ask yourself, "What is mine to do in this moment?" Know that you are not bound by precedent. Let go of the past. Make self-forgiveness a daily practice.
2) Get clear about what your underlying intentions are that prevent you from following through. Identifying and feeling your emotions will support you in getting to know what is going on in your subconscious.
3) Stop blaming others for your deconstructive circumstances. Recommit to your intentions and goals moment to moment to keep you moving forward. Remember that the highest metaphysical law in the Universe is 'Don't Bitch!'
4) Each and every day commit to doing something loving for yourself despite what you are feeling or what is going on around you. Stop the excuses! YOU are worthy!
5) Set concrete goals that will bring more pleasure, joy, and happiness into your life. Give your blessing and appreciation for all that you receive. This will increase your mental equivalence for pleasure.
It takes persistence, practice and patience! My book, A year of possibilities certainly helps to keep me on track. The more I use it, the more I stay focused on my goals, aligned with my essence, and enthusiastic about my achievements. My confidence in my abilities deepen and I feel excited about creating and living my dreams.
When you find you have fallen out of the saddle so to speak, and I have literally -- at 14 I was trying to impress a boy. I forgot to tighten the cinch and when I stepped into the stirrup, the saddle and I flipped under my horse! --In any endeavour know that all the mind chatter is normal for any human being and that the moment you connect with your own divinity, your Light within the chatter has no power over you. At anytime you can get back in the saddle and continue on creating a life of joy that you truly deserve to live.
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Helen Valleau is an Author, Speaker, Coach and Visioning expert. She has inspired thousands of visions to come to life and has created a program and book called A year of possibilities to offer a variety of ways that people can work with her to achieve their dreams.
